We’ve all heard the sayings, “Trust the process,” and “It’s about the journey, not the destination.” What TF does that mean?! We’re all told to set and reach goals but there’s this middle part where we spend the majority of our time that offers a plethora of information and experiences. If we over look this part we miss everything. We miss out on important lessons, new connections, growth, opportunities we weren’t expecting, redirections we didn’t plan for and all of this leads us to our final destinations. If we only stress about getting to that end game we miss the tools that we pick up that we might need to reach the next goal. The process is what prepares us and pushes us to be ready for the end goal and it’s what sets us up for the next one.
Has anyone ever asked you “who are you?” We usually reply with things like student, son or daughter, friend, entrepreneur, activist, athlete, musician, etc. But then they say the annoying, “not what are you, WHO are you?” And we’re dumbfounded. Who we are is the most difficult question to answer. Which if you think about it, we spend 100% of our time with our selves, it shouldn’t be that complicated… but it is. Figuring out who we are is a lifelong journey and just when you think you’ve got it figured out, spoiler alert, something changes. We grow, we learn, we make mistakes, we repeat. It’s a revolving door of new information that we are constantly sifting through and that’s NORMAL. It’s ok to change, or feel confused, or not have all the answers. That’s part of life and growing. Rest assured that self discovery is a challenge. Learn to enjoy the process, you’re an explorer on the quest of a lifetime!
We all talk to ourselves. We have a constant inner dialogue that if left unchecked can run us into dangerous territory or over the finish line. If you really sit and have an honest moment with yourself what are you saying to you? Are you hyping yourself up or are you tearing yourself down? Do you look at yourself and tell that sexy thaanng that shit’s looking 🔥 or do you get hung up on the things you don’t like? If you’re trying to do anything, and I mean ANYTHING, you have to start with how you talk to yourself. You’ll never get your shit together if you keep telling yourself you’re a fuck up. You’ll never get in shape if you keep telling yourself you’re fat, and you’ll never have money if you keep saying you’re broke. The list goes on and on. That doesn’t mean we’re not self aware or ignoring areas that need improvement, it means that we treat ourselves with respect and allow ourselves to be human. When we speak so harshly to ourselves we stay on the hamster wheel, running as fast as we can with no real progress. Get off the wheel and start taking real steps. Step number one, repeat “I’m DOPE as fuck.” And believe it.