Ever felt like you needed to conform to the norms of a group? Like you needed to please people? Yeah same, and all I can say is FUCK THAT! There is nothing more draining than trying to please everyone in your life. Why do we feel the need to do this? Why can’t we just be who we are and not give a shit? Because we are so afraid of losing people. But guess what, if you lose people for being who you really are then they weren’t real friends in the first place!
Losing people you thought were friends is not an easy thing. It makes our brains move a mile a minute thinking about why they didn’t like the real you. But sometimes losing those people is blessing in disguise. It makes room in your life for new friends who will love you for YOU. And that is the best damn thing in the world. Be unapologetically you and see what happens! It might just change your life.
Do you ever overreact to a situation, conversation, or even just vibes? You automatically assume everyone’s out to get you? Make shit up or misinterpret things only to make yourself look like an ass? We more often than not think that everyone is out to get us. We overthink things, we imagine the worse, and we sometimes even change the interpretation of the script because we subconsciously want it to be negative.
Surprise surprise, we ruin relationships this way. If we stop and pause before we react to what we hear, read or see and do something that will distract our reaction, it will disrupt our immediate reaction. Count to 10, sing a favorite song, repeat a favorite word, etc., are just a few things that could be of help. After having a chance to ease our mind we can change our interpretation to have a positive reaction that can work in our favor.
Waiting? Fuck that! Don’t wait for anything. I hate to break it to you, but if you want a different life or if you want something to happen, you and only you can do it! Look, there’s some bad news. There is no fairy god mother who will swoop in and wave her magic wand to make things happen for you. There is no magic pill, no secret sauce, no quick fix, no overnight success, no right time, and definitely no safe zone.
However, there is some good news amongst the bad. The good news is it’s a level playing field for anyone who is willing to grind and grit. If you want it bad enough your reason WHY will overcome your excuses that always seem to come up. Start by having your conscious mind and your subconscious mind be in sync with one other. You need to have them agree to a pact. This way they move in the same direction of your WHY. Tell them how their cooperation can make shit happen. Give yourself a schedule of simple to-do’s that will move you in the direction of your dreams. It starts with you, your conscious and unconscious mind. The time will pass either moving forward or doing nothing. So start now and slay!
Isn’t it about time you work on your own happy ending? Why should you go through life trying to please everyone else? It’s time to stop living someone else’s wish and start living your own. I know, it’s easier said than done. But it’s not impossible. Start with writing down some thoughts to help you explore your situation. After that, create a plan from there. Then just start!
Answer these questions:
What do you enjoy spending time on?
Who lifts you up?
What’s in the way of your happiness?
What can you do to work around those obstacles?
What changes do you need to make in order to make shit happen?
Whose gotta go?
Janis Joplin once said, “My business is to have fun because in the end, it’s all going to end.” She was right. That’s all going to end, so wake the fuck up and start living your best life. Why the hell not!
Basic B: Are u serious?
Weirdo: Excuse me, what?
Basic B: That outfit u had on today? Takes a brave soul to wear that lmfao
Weirdo: Wtf do you mean by that?
Basic B: All I’m saying is, you can’t go wrong with a pair of Lulu Lemon leggings, crop top and Vans or whatever. It’s simple, cute, and everyone is wearing it. Maybe you would fit in more if you would dress like the rest of us… You’re drawing SO much attention to yourself ya know, and not the good kind
Weirdo: You really think I’m trying to draw attention to myself?
Basic B: Why else would you wear something like that? #yikes
Weirdo: Idk maybe because I like it? because I feel comfortable in it?
Basic B: In that?! Hahahah interesting..
Weirdo: Please just stop yourself.
Basic B: I’m trying to help you!!
Weirdo: No you’re being an ass
Basic B: Oh so I’m being an ass for trying to help you not get made fun of??
Weirdo: Yup. You’re an ass. You’re trying to tell me to not be myself and frankly I love myself.
Weirdo: Call me what you want, make fun of me, idgaf.
Basic B: Ok weirdo. Last time I try to help you.
Basic B: Have fun being the laughingstock of the school!!!!
Weirdo: I might be weirdo, the laughingstock, the odd one out, but I freaking love who I am. I am a confident weirdo. Screw you & everyone else who can’t handle that.
Perfection. It’s something people are continuously striving for whether that be in looks, foods, styles, etc. People will go to great lengths to embody the societal idea of “perfect” such as Botox, Photoshop, and even plastic surgery. But is perfection really something we should be striving for? There is a significant beauty in differences, in imperfection.
In the Japanese art of Kintsugi, when something breaks they fill it with gold to mend it. The broken, imperfect piece is now highlighted with beautiful marks. They do not throw something away, or hide it when it is broken. They fix it and emphasize the imperfections. The idea of celebrating imperfections in Kintsugi is an idea society should emphasize rather than the idea of perfection.
If everyone in the world was “perfect” it would be quite boring. Differences are special. They make people unique. We should not be trying to cover up our differences or imperfections but showcasing the beauty of them. They make us who we are and that is beautiful. Love your imperfections for what they are, and who they make you. That is much more special and meaningful than being “perfect.”
Ever been in such a hurry to get somewhere important and it’s as if the universe knows? It’s like it purposely sets a roadblock directly in your driving route to slow you down even more and make you late. So you gotta swerve into another lane to find a clear route without anything to slow you down to get you to your destination. Yeah that’s what it should be like with toxic people in your life. The kind of people who are your “friends” but don’t believe in you and your dreams. You should swerve right out of that damn lane.
People who don’t believe in you are significantly brining you down. They’re a road block in the route of your dreams. Why would you want someone who doesn’t approve of you in your life anyway? That kind of negative energy can be detrimental. It can make you insecure, question your dreams, and just sad. All I can say is screw that. Who needs negative Nelly’s in their life?? NOT US. We need people who believe in us and what we want to do whole heartedly. They make the strenuous road to our dreams just a little bit easier!
Ever thought about the difference between winners and losers? Oh I’m sure you have
because who hasn’t? Well I’ve got a killer secret for you… winners have a secret formula. Yes,
just like Mr. Krabs with the Krabby Patty. Every time winners experience setbacks, failures,
rejection they try one more time, every time. Get what I’m saying? The secret formula is every
time. Simple as that! They become winners because they continuously try and try again until
You deserve to be in that winner’s circle, everyone does! But you have to use that secret
formula. So why not start now. Yeah you will experience rejection that’s a part of life. But take
that rejection as fuel for your winner’s fire. Why do you think J.K Rowling is such a success?
Because she never gave up! Harry Potter was declined by numerous publishing companies
before it was accepted by one and became a world-wide success. Twelve to be exact.
That’s a lot of rejection for one person. It can be emotionally exhausting to be rejected
time and time again over something you put your whole heart into. But obviously J.K Rowling
did not give up after her first rejection experience. She brought her work to more and more
publishing companies with vast determination. Her “just one more time. One more publishing
company” brought her to where she is today. And your “one more time” can lead you to your
success! Just keep on using that secret formula: every time.
Did you know that nobody in this world has the same finger print? Not even identical
twins! It is kind of the same thing with dreams and goals. Nobody has the exact same dream,
goal or path in how to achieve them. They can be big, little, simple, crazy and everything in
between. It should not matter what your dream or goal exactly is but your attitude towards
achieving it does matter.
Achieving a dream takes an extensive amount of hard work and nothing will get done if
that hard work is not put in. There are three choices in this life, you can:
A) Give up
B) Give in
C) Give it your all
I found this quote and decided it is a perfect fit for this. You have to give your goals your all
because they will stay stagnant if you don’t! It doesn’t matter if your goal is small such as to
stop waking up at noon every day. If you don’t fully commit to it and do a half assed job, it will
never be achieved.
With that being said, I don’t care how big or how small your goal or dream is. All I care
about is if you give it your all! If you want to be a doctor, go for it! If you’re trying to start a
business, good for you!! If you’re trying to stop eating like crap and eat more veggies, you
totally got this! Just give it everything you have and you will be amazed at the results! Mark
your mark on this crazy world we live in. B DOPE AF!
When? The word that haunts so many brains… When will my pizza get here? When will I
have time to start this? When will I even finish? Yeah the “When?” is a scary question/word but
guess what, time goes on, and boy does it move quickly. And the bad news is, there is no
possible way we have the ability to make it slow down. So why wait to act upon your dreams
and make them a reality? There always seems to be a better time. Tomorrow, next week, next
month, next year…
NEWSFLASH if you keep putting it off it is never going to happen! Do not wait for the
“right” time because seriously when is there ever a right time? Something always ends up
popping up to make you wait. Do not wait for all the stars to align to create a perfect scenario
because there is no such thing as perfect! Do not wait until you know precisely how to do
everything because who really knows how to do everything right? All you really need is to take
ownership and get started.
Yeah getting started can be a scary thing but you just have to jump right in and start to
swim. Do not let anyone tell when you should get started on your dreams or when you should
wait. They are YOUR dreams for a reason, not anybody else’s. Like Walt Disney said (yes I’m
referencing him again because I love that man) “The way to get started is to quit talking and
start doing.” Let get this sh*t done my friends, our dreams are waiting.